Does body shaming happen to people of all sizes? YES.
Does body shaming happen in equal amounts and intensity in both fat and non-fat bodies? NOPE!
Are you allowed to speak about the body bullying you have experienced? Absolutely.
Is the appropriate time to speak about this bullying on a post about the institutionalized hatred of fat bodies? NOPE!
I don’t want to hear ‘but thin people…’ because I already know. I know you experience hate too. I encourage you to speak up about it.However, I also encourage you to learn the difference between speaking up and speaking over.
“I raped that test in math cla–” No.
“I raped that game earli–” Stop.
“The other team totally raped us tod–” Shut the fuck up.
Do you see what you’re doing?
YOU ARE MAKING RAPE SOUND LIKE A POSITIVE ACTION.
YOU ARE EQUATING SEXUAL VIOLENCE WITH ACHIEVEMENTS.
the fact that men are more likely to abandon their female partners when they’re seriously medically ill is the most disgusting indicator that we are living in a patriarchy that devalues women to a point where men say “this ones broken i need to drop her/get a new one”
So I just watched the entire first season of Falling Skies.
It’s really good. Keen for the second season.
Do you ever just watch a show and look at the female characters and think
Oh honey you deserve so much better than this.
Women invented all the core technologies that made civilization possible. This isn’t some feminist myth; it’s what modern anthropologists believe. Women are thought to have invented pottery, basketmaking, weaving, textiles, horticulture, and agriculture. That’s right: without women’s inventions, we wouldn’t be able to carry things or store things or tie things up or go fishing or hunt with nets or haft a blade or wear clothes or grow our food or live in permanent settlements. Suck on that.
Women have continued to be involved in the creation and advancement of civilization throughout history, whether you know it or not. Pick anything—a technology, a science, an art form, a school of thought—and start digging into the background. You’ll find women there, I guarantee, making critical contributions and often inventing the damn shit in the first place.
Women have made those contributions in spite of astonishing hurdles. Hurdles like not being allowed to go to school. Hurdles like not being allowed to work in an office with men, or join a professional society, or walk on the street, or own property. Example: look up Lise Meitner some time. When she was born in 1878 it was illegal in Austria for girls to attend school past the age of 13. Once the laws finally eased up and she could go to university, she wasn’t allowed to study with the men. Then she got a research post but wasn’t allowed to use the lab on account of girl cooties. Her whole life was like this, but she still managed to discover nuclear fucking fission. Then the Nobel committee gave the prize to her junior male colleague and ignored her existence completely.
Men in all patriarchal civilizations, including ours, have worked to downplay or deny women’s creative contributions. That’s because patriarchy is founded on the belief that women are breeding stock and men are the only people who can think. The easiest way for men to erase women’s contributions is to simply ignore that they happened. Because when you ignore something, it gets forgotten. People in the next generation don’t hear about it, and so they grow up thinking that no women have ever done anything. And then when women in their generation do stuff, they think “it’s a fluke, never happened before in the history of the world, ignore it.” And so they ignore it, and it gets forgotten. And on and on and on. The New York Times article is a perfect illustration of this principle in action.
Finally, and this is important: even those women who weren’t inventors and intellectuals, even those women who really did spend all their lives doing stereotypical “women’s work”—they also built this world. The mundane labor of life is what makes everything else possible. Before you can have scientists and engineers and artists, you have to have a whole bunch of people (and it’s usually women) to hold down the basics: to grow and harvest and cook the food, to provide clothes and shelter, to fetch the firewood and the water, to nurture and nurse, to tend and teach. Every single scrap of civilized inventing and dreaming and thinking rides on top of that foundation. Never forget that.
fun fact: iraq, pakistan, afghanistan and saudi arabia have a higher percentage of women in the government than the us & the uk
another fun fact: white people tend to get very angry when you point this out to them
If MRAs actually wanted to mobilize behind the issues they raise, they’d stop whining about how hard it is to be a white North American dude and take action by, say, campaigning for workplace safety measures, or helping men and boys who are survivors of rape and domestic violence access the resources they need. But MRAs aren’t as interested in making things better for men as much as they’re interested in reasserting male dominance by silencing women.
Since their arguments are so laughably spurious, MRAs can’t successfully combat feminism with facts. That’s why so many of them resort to intimidation via threats of rape and violence. Hey, it’s how the patriarchy has operated for centuries. That’s how they know it works.
Katie JM Baker - Rape and Death Threats: What Men’s Rights Activists Really Look Like
That first paragraph, seriously. I don’t think I’ve ever seen an MRA mention male rape victims unless it’s to derail a conversation about the rape of women. They don’t actually give a shit, I bet half of them would laugh at a prison “don’t drop the soap” joke in any other context. They only bring up male victims whenever it’s helpful in interrupting feminist conversations about how rape of women is so common because we live in a misogynistic culture.